During a very trying time in my life when my money wasn’t right, business wasn’t right, and neither were my relationships, I had to learn to Command My Day! It became my mantra. I couldn’t afford, mentally or emotionally, to allow my day to command me. Instead of allowing my circumstances and the feelings attached, to drive me, I had to learn how to drive them.
Majority of the time, I think a lot of people end up being sad, angry, and upset because they focus on the problem instead of a solution. One of the reasons that I can laugh a lot of the time when a problem occurs is because I realize there’s nothing (or there should be nothing) that can take away my joy.
You always have options.
There’s an option to every scenario. This is a small example but one I think people can relate to….
A few weeks ago, I was trying to log into one of my bank accounts online and for some reason I kept getting an error message. I’m thinking, “What in the world is going on?” I tried a couple of variations of my password and nothing worked. Finally, I decided to actually read what the error message said, “The account no longer exists.” This was an account that I had with one of the national banks that I kept open for friends to be able to transfer money into or to have easy access to when I’m out of state because my primary account is a state credit union. So, I don’t normally keep a lot of money in this account and oftentimes take it all the way to zero just because the account doesn’t have any monthly maintenance fees that require a balance.
I called customer service and explained my issue. The rep looked up my account and says, “Oh yes Ms. Davis, your account is closed due to inactivity since November.” I laugh, tell her thank you, and took my card out to shred it. I’m thinking, “Well if I haven’t used it since November, then I don’t need it.”
It wasn’t that big of a deal.
Maybe a day or two later, two different people, one in California and one in New Jersey, ask me to give them my account information and of course I didn’t have account information to give them. All I could do was laugh. Why? Because instead of allowing something so trivial to make me upset, mad, sad, or ruin my mood or my day, I can think about what my options are and not dwell on the thought that, “Ugh they closed my account and now people are asking me for the account number!”
My options were 1) I can see what it takes to reopen the account; 2) I can tell my friends that I no longer have the account and we can use an app such as Cash or PayPal; or 3) whatever they owed me, I could just forget about it and tell them this one was on me. The one option that did not exist was me being upset and allowing something so simple to ruin my day.
Who or what commands your day?
If something trivial can send you in a tizzy, start realizing that you have a choice in how you respond and how you allow it to affect you. Today I challenge you to make the decision to command your day!